tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post5566801448578556906..comments2024-03-28T17:53:34.935-04:00Comments on Exquisitely Unremarkable : What Other People Think Of You Is None Of Your BusinessKim http://www.blogger.com/profile/15445291034631735026noreply@blogger.comBlogger37125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-53732982215278651162016-06-05T14:39:52.896-04:002016-06-05T14:39:52.896-04:00Totally agree, excellent advice!! Thank you so muc...Totally agree, excellent advice!! Thank you so much for adding your thoughts and I am so glad you enjoyed your time here! :) Kim https://www.blogger.com/profile/15445291034631735026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-12528308950811314542016-05-29T04:01:23.596-04:002016-05-29T04:01:23.596-04:00The one thing I learned you have to live for yours...The one thing I learned you have to live for yourself and not for others. If you have people in your life that are constantly petty and full of judgement on how people live their life, how they look, who they date/marry, etc..... it is time to keep your distance. I have had plenty of people like this in my life and I had to LC(light contact) with some and NC(no contact)with others. You are not obligated to be around these people, especially if they make you feel bad, lousy, sad, etc. Only YOU knows what is right for you.....not anyone else. <br /><br />That being said you have a nice blog, I enjoyed your articles. First time visiter.AngelsWithFluffyWingshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11088793534833990163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-11815229619852299902016-03-28T21:55:12.969-04:002016-03-28T21:55:12.969-04:00Oh Jen, make no mistake, I struggle with this ever...Oh Jen, make no mistake, I struggle with this every day. I try to keep it in the front of the brain, but it's hard not to be affected by unkind words or looks. I am so glad you enjoyed the post and it touched you in some way. That always makes me smile! :) Kim https://www.blogger.com/profile/15445291034631735026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-67296303496030269702016-03-28T01:52:50.925-04:002016-03-28T01:52:50.925-04:00You are certainly more than a decent person. I try...You are certainly more than a decent person. I try not to care what others think, but I am still quite insecure. Not in a teenager way either, but in the people pleaser way. There is a group of moms at my daughter's school that gossip about me. I know they do. In a very teenager way as well. One will look at me, whisper to another mom, and then, they look back at me. It hurts. I don't conform to their stylish ways, I'm sickly thin, but only temporarily as I finish the garden. It's sooo hard not to care when all you want is peace and for others to like you. I'm not social at all. That's just not me. Maybe they think I'm a snob? Oh well. I will try to remember this. Thank you Kimmie. xo JenAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07420524123565812135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-9307120074996131412015-05-31T08:51:38.015-04:002015-05-31T08:51:38.015-04:00I agree, Diana. It is a weird feeling, indeed. I h...I agree, Diana. It is a weird feeling, indeed. I have a post of privacy in my drafts, I think about it that much! One of these days, maybe I’ll hit publish! ;) Thanks for the interesting discussion.Kim https://www.blogger.com/profile/15445291034631735026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-27426468822349703422015-05-31T06:51:55.169-04:002015-05-31T06:51:55.169-04:00yes, the real estate pictures are out there. But I...yes, the real estate pictures are out there. But I suspect our Porterville home is slightly changed - we can see from Google Earth that they have built the HUGE orchid house they planned, where we had a row of apple trees. I describe our current house vaguely as on False Bay - but anyone who wanted to, could find it.<br /><br />Using my real name on my blog began when Google was using Authorship (giving us a thumbnail image when our blog post came up on Google Search). Google has abandoned that idea, but my name and face are still on my blog! <br /><br />With all the issues around privacy and data, I prefer to be proactive and put what I am comfortable with sharing Out There To Be Found. But it remains a weird feeeling.Diana Studerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12286066768376135880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-69938236329107554552015-05-30T19:31:41.614-04:002015-05-30T19:31:41.614-04:00I think that everyone has to do what sits right wi...I think that everyone has to do what sits right with them. At first I was hesitant about posting my home, but not anymore. It's all out there in old real estate listings, etc. It's amazing what you can find on the internet. I am more in awe of people that put their names on their blogs and their locations. However, all that information is out there anyway, I suppose. I thought about it a lot when I first started blogging. Not as much anymore...I think I've blocked it out! ;-) Kim https://www.blogger.com/profile/15445291034631735026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-58163262733863410322015-05-29T16:23:53.491-04:002015-05-29T16:23:53.491-04:00your mom is right. Whatever lets you sleep at nigh...your mom is right. Whatever lets you sleep at night.<br /><br />I am quietly awed at people who are willing to share their whole home with the internet out there.<br />I am comfortable with a corner or two of ours on my blog.Diana Studerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12286066768376135880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-52211387838542920422015-04-09T18:59:10.733-04:002015-04-09T18:59:10.733-04:00Thank you, Benita! I agree, I am social as well an...Thank you, Benita! I agree, I am social as well and enjoy people, but I fret much less now, in middle age (!) about what others think of me than I did before. Kim https://www.blogger.com/profile/15445291034631735026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-70905491356596975282015-04-08T21:41:42.744-04:002015-04-08T21:41:42.744-04:00GREAT article!! I've never really cared what ...GREAT article!! I've never really cared what people thought of me, take me as I am or move on. Now don't get me wrong, I want people to like me because I like people and I'm very social. But I can't change who I am so that they will like me. If I do that, then who am I? I'm so glad I found your blog today!! Have a great evening! PS...love your kitchen!Benitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02712521705008463049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-85733892001281181162015-03-16T15:35:18.499-04:002015-03-16T15:35:18.499-04:00I am so glad that you stumbled upon my blog, Donna...I am so glad that you stumbled upon my blog, Donnamae...and you're right, at 94 I think your mom knows plenty! :) Kim https://www.blogger.com/profile/15445291034631735026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-35162531217555273222015-03-16T13:38:50.500-04:002015-03-16T13:38:50.500-04:00Don't know or remember, how I stumbled my way ...Don't know or remember, how I stumbled my way here...but so glad I did! This is a great post! The best thing you can do for yourself, is to make sure you put your best foot forward, and not worry what others think. My mom taught me that...and she's 94...so I think she knows a thing or two! Enjoy your day! ;)Donnamaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13978668649808777994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-16454301102879815552014-01-09T15:04:50.484-05:002014-01-09T15:04:50.484-05:00Oh I really like this! I think there are extremes...Oh I really like this! I think there are extremes both ways though. As a kid I always told myself I didn't care what others thought of me because it shouldn't matter, but it was really just low self esteem talking. Now I truly don't care what others are thinking of me, but because of one man (my husband) I care about what I think of me. And that made all the difference.Adelina Priddishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00357595907484277656noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-6350382598986426072014-01-09T13:15:19.378-05:002014-01-09T13:15:19.378-05:00The sentiment is simple but true, Michele...hard t...The sentiment is simple but true, Michele...hard to accept sometimes, but true!Kim https://www.blogger.com/profile/15445291034631735026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-38784699383495677082014-01-09T13:13:50.186-05:002014-01-09T13:13:50.186-05:00Very true, Sara! You think that by now, at middle ...Very true, Sara! You think that by now, at middle age, I would have this one down! ;)Kim https://www.blogger.com/profile/15445291034631735026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-13338897755190277972014-01-09T12:19:33.806-05:002014-01-09T12:19:33.806-05:00Love the sign "It is what it is"!!! Need...Love the sign "It is what it is"!!! Need one for my kitchen!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14331782032928755678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-63019031530824167532014-01-09T10:17:29.285-05:002014-01-09T10:17:29.285-05:00It's so hard to remember that you don't ne...It's so hard to remember that you don't need to measure up. You need to just do your best and leave the rest. Sarahttp://www.highheelsandtrainingwheels.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-88807860513683707752013-11-14T18:20:31.699-05:002013-11-14T18:20:31.699-05:00Thanks so much Johnnie! You are right, my mother i...Thanks so much Johnnie! You are right, my mother is a very wise person...I wish I could say that I am always good about not caring, but I would be lying. I do seem to be getting better about it as I get older! :)Kim https://www.blogger.com/profile/15445291034631735026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-2077635343643494072013-11-14T12:47:14.827-05:002013-11-14T12:47:14.827-05:00Kim M you are hysterical! I love your argument ab...Kim M you are hysterical! I love your argument about, "You have proprietary rights over thoughts about you!" Priceless! Your mom is a very wise person. It really boils down to how you live your life and not being concerned about what others think! I love this post Kim M. Very well written!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-64600126508319645002013-10-21T21:50:49.889-04:002013-10-21T21:50:49.889-04:00Eleanor, thank you so much for your nice comment a...Eleanor, thank you so much for your nice comment and for following along ~ you just made my day! It is a great quote, very true and yet it is so hard to not care about what others think. Some days I am better with it than others! :) I like the silent mantra idea!Kim https://www.blogger.com/profile/15445291034631735026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-29963845877575662292013-10-21T17:25:50.778-04:002013-10-21T17:25:50.778-04:00Thank you for the post. I first saw this quote fe...Thank you for the post. I first saw this quote few months ago, but I was searching on it today because I couldn't remember who said it. I had the same reaction the first time I read it. I have tried using the statement like a silent mantra, to keep me on track. But, it's so easy to forget. I am so glad to have found your blog, and I have subscribed. I look forward to reading more posts.Eleanor Mnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-55277642211474446192013-10-10T18:21:40.038-04:002013-10-10T18:21:40.038-04:00Ok Nancy, according to my post, I am not supposed ...Ok Nancy, according to my post, I am not supposed to care what others think of me, BUT...your comment just made my day! I am really trying to inspire people to find the little things in their everyday surroundings that bring them joy and that it doesn't need to be big or complicated. It can be a child's smile, a sunset or a very, simple, doable DIY project....and, you're right, the product does not have to be perfect to be wonderful! I am so excited my blog is "reading" that way! :) Thank you! Kim https://www.blogger.com/profile/15445291034631735026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-21603712902647289332013-10-09T13:31:11.545-04:002013-10-09T13:31:11.545-04:00Need that one! Thanks.
I have a sign that says &q...Need that one! Thanks.<br />I have a sign that says "It Is What It Is...BUT It Will Become What You Make It!" <br />Thanks for such a helpful non-judgemental (read: easy and uncomplicated DIY) site! It allows me to give myself permission to not be a perfectionist and always think stuff has to be amazing!<br />Visiting from www.Itsomuchfunwatchingod.blogspot.comMom2347https://www.blogger.com/profile/11256458807410764078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-6896442705046645442013-08-19T14:55:05.698-04:002013-08-19T14:55:05.698-04:00Hello Kathy,
Thanks so much for stopping by and r...Hello Kathy,<br /><br />Thanks so much for stopping by and reading my post. It really is one of my favorites and even though I never promote it, it is always in my sidebar as one of my most popular pieces. I guess the sentiment resonates with a lot of people. I was unaware of the book, I will have to look it up for sure! I read your post, it is excellent. It is hard to stay the course, no matter how indifferent we claim to be, somehow the need to be judged in a positive manner (positive by whose definition?) can creep back in and pull us off course again. I love your comment about following your own North Star! I am going to keep that in mind and post it on my fridge to keep me steadfast on my own path! <br /><br />A pleasure meeting you, Kathy, I'm so glad you stopped by and I am really looking forward to becoming better acquainted with your blog and reading your posts! Kim https://www.blogger.com/profile/15445291034631735026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7072740790042271296.post-48878468825178241212013-08-19T11:57:54.597-04:002013-08-19T11:57:54.597-04:00Hi Kim...I just found your blog from our friend Lo...Hi Kim...I just found your blog from our friend Lois over at Living Simply Free. I had to comment because this is one of my very favorite topics and I find it is the sort of thing that I need to be reminded of over and over again...Did you know there is actually a book out there on this topic "What you think of me is none of my business?" We aren't the only ones! And yes, my husband and I "right-sized" our home (that's our new name for down-sizing ) and I too find myself occasionally wanting to offer explanation for why we moved from a much bigger house to the one where we live now--which is silly because I ADORE my new house so much more than the other. Anyway, in case anyone is interested and wants more on the subject here is a link to my blog post of the same name... http://smartliving365.com/what-you-think-about-me-is-none-of-my-business/ Thanks for the reminders~KathyKathy @ SMART Living 365.comhttp://smartliving365.comnoreply@blogger.com